Matters of the heart are a sensitive territory in the general human experience. That is why Lilith in the 5th house, which rules this aspect, is not an easy placement to have in the natal chart. She brings the dark energy of the wild feminine ruling our shadowy sides into the area of joy and pleasure. Such challenging themes can profoundly affect a person’s place of fun in the birth chart, and when Lilith’s energy comes to expression, those with this placement struggle to live a carefree life.
Their ability to circulate their heart’s energy will be restricted, and they may experience blockages in the life areas of self-expression and creativity.
To avoid suffering from long-term heartache in life and find the source of power that Lilith potentially brings, it is helpful to understand the aspects of Her influence in the 5th house. By combining this information and the knowledge about Her position in a particular zodiac sign, you can navigate yourself on a journey of healing by facing the demons that live in the unconscious. These shadows condition you to believe that fun, freedom, and self-empowerment are impossible to achieve.
Instead of being anxious about the joy and pleasure that life can offer you, read the rest of this article and find out what to consider on this journey of reclaiming your power.
About the 5th house
Each house in the chart wheel represents a different area of life. They are divided into three categories: the season’s beginning, middle, and end. These categories are called angular, succedent, and cadent.
The 5th house is governed by the sign of Leo, which as the ‘king of the zodiac,’ represents sovereignty, loyalty, and free expression based on the courage, compassion, and passion that resides in the heart. This area in life, therefore, indicates the experience of freedom and functions as the resulting reality of the 4th house, where a person learns to feel safe with who they are and achieve a sense of belonging.
As the most cheerful house, the 5th is a source of life energy, entertainment, optimism, and everything that, in essence, energizes the soul. Art, acting, romance, and everything else one can create is part of this house. It is where a person experiences creative freedom.
On top of that, it also rules children, having them, or the inner child. This is symbolically related to this house’s pure, raw, and unfiltered energy.
One can only imagine that, despite Her deep desire for free and wild expression, Lilith’s entourage of shadow aspects and angrily resentful nature throws a spanner in the works.
What Lilith reveals here
Facing one’s demons and learning to transcend the suppressed and wounded internal parts can bring tremendous power. The integration of Black Moon Lilith sets such a process in motion.
She helps people find their unconscious patterns of extremist or destructive behavior and forces them through challenging experiences to heal their wounded selves by restoring their internal balance where they may have felt powerless and helpless before.
The patriarchal world tends to condition people with a sense of shame, guilt, and rejection regarding their primal nature and wild desires for creative expression, which is the wild feminine side of Nature’s balance.
Lilith’s influence on the dealings with unconscious trauma and pain is similar to plutonic experiences, locked up in the unconscious, where patterns run in the background and cause problems.
The primary condition that Lilith in the 5th house intends to break free from is the anxiety around having fun and the sense of guilt imposed on Her for enjoying Herself.
The shadow aspect in the unconscious that needs to be transcended causes those with Lilith in the 5th house to experience pain where others find pleasure. They may deny themselves a light-hearted approach to life and either avoid fun or, which is an indication of Lilith’s dual nature, overcompensate it by over-indulging in their pleasure without responsibility or consideration of their own and others’ needs.
Lilith in the 5th house can cause one or several of the following issues, that each carry the purpose of forcing these people to overcome their deepest fears, anger, and pain as a result of specific traumatic experiences they had to go through as children and scarred them into adulthood.
The most common challenges with Lilith in the 5th house are negative experiences in the love life of those with this astrological placement in their birth chart. Drama and heartache are docile experiences that most people face at some point in their life. Yet Lilith emphasizes the destructive and painful feelings that come with this or triggers those with Lilith in their house of love to act out in extremist behavior, causing them tremendous heartache.
In the house of creativity and romance, Lilith stifles the experiences that can be gained in this area. She indicates a deep-rooted fear of authentically expressing oneself for who they are and inhibits their spontaneity.
Because Lilith affects these people’s love life, they can often find themselves in unhealthy love affairs because, for them, love is sometimes a self-destructive matter. Whether their partner is emotionally unavailable, selfish, or unappreciative, these people tend to attract those that affirm their shadow beliefs and negative perception about themselves and Love.
In the house of Leo, Lilith also causes these people to unconsciously feel dissatisfied with love. Besides attracting toxic relationships, they also desire to be praised and adored, which is a shadowy aspect of the Leo archetype.
Lilith makes them feel like they don’t deserve to be appreciated, affecting their ability to receive appropriate and genuine attention.
The issues that cause these people to struggle with finding the love and joy they desire deep down are often the result of traumatic experiences and suppression of their freedom in childhood.
Their need for attention and acceptance were rejected, or perhaps their parents did not support their desires and the ways in which they wished to express themselves.
They may have also had to face heaviness and grim realities earlier than what was appropriate to the maturity of what they could handle. Meeting their own or others’ pain far too early could have scarred them as adults, making them feel ashamed of wanting to enjoy life.
On top of the shame, they can even feel fearful about ‘going with the flow’ and following their heart because they know the risk and dark side of life far too well.
While others go the opposite direction and let their desires get out of control, which could make them end up hurting themselves.
One of the dark sides of life they probably have faced early in life was the sensation of grief, an emotion they are likely very familiar with. They may have lost a lot, including their rights to be a carefree child. Later in life, this manifests in a restriction to be free to be themselves or in loss of love.
In some extreme cases, Lilith in the 5th house can cause the loss of a child, but that would require other placements to be directed into this experience as well.
When it comes to children, another aspect of the 5th house, there can be hardships with them as well. Whether Lilith expresses this pain in fear of having them because these people believe they can’t be good parents or because of fertility problems. Lilith makes it hard for these people to consider having children, and if that is a wish of theirs, they need first to integrate Her presence and heal their wounds in this area. After that, they can become great parents and even have many offspring.
The way to heal Lilith’s wound
The best way to integrate Lilith would be first to recognize a resemblance with the traits mentioned in this article and connect them with the zodiac sign Lilith is in.
Any aspects to other planets from the Black Moon and other significant points in the chart are also important. Still, an excellent place to start in general is to consider in what way you can restore the balance in your life in whichever area and the way you experience extreme pains, recurring patterns, and painful triggers.
Finding the balance in your expression and sources of pleasure in life is a big struggle that serves Lilith’s provocation to teach you a valuable lesson. Knowing the extremes in which you operate is essential because it is in mastering the balance of life that people can find their most significant power in.
Other indications to look for are wounded expressions in your sexuality. Whether you have dealt with shame in your younger years about expressing your, perhaps wildish, desires or feeling blocked in this area of life, it is essential to become aware of the hidden cause and learn to create mature, healthy, and loving relationships in life. Both with yourself and those around you. It is key to distinguish between love and trauma bonding. And to gain the tools for such discernment requires time and experience. So be patient with yourself and slowly find ways in which you can rebuild a healthy relationship with your sense of pleasure.
Try new things out, talk about your problems, find security and advice with those you trust and give good inspiration in how they go about things.