When Lilith is in the 8th house of the astrological birth chart, She is placed in the area that rules a person’s experiences with physical sexuality, taboos, and transformation. It is a conspicuous indication of Lilith’s intense power in this house when one realizes that their natures and themes synchronize. Her influential power, therefore, is intensified and seemingly impossible to avoid.
The confrontation that this placement can bring is challenging to deal with and can intensely affect a person’s life experiences.
Yet, despite this potent aspect of a person’s chart, the proper tools and awareness can guide them to the possibility of reclaiming their power and transforming this weak spot into a strength.
Keep reading if you have Lilith in the 8th house and find out in what ways you may recognize aspects in your own life to consider how to best tackle the shadow work that needs to be done.
About the 8th house
Each house in the chart wheel represents a different area of life. They are divided into three categories: the season’s beginning, middle, and end. These categories are called angular, succedent, and cadent. The 8th house is a succedent house and fulfills the purpose of helping a person integrate what they have experienced in the 7th house of relationships with others. It is known as a social house and rules the spiritual development in one’s engagement with the world.
As one of the two most spiritual houses ruled by the waterelement, the 8th holds mysteries and rules what is, for most people, an unknown territory. Even though we don’t experience its themes on a mundane daily level, the influence of the 8th house makes a significant mark in a person’s life.
In the natural chart, this house is associated with the sign of Scorpio, which is ruled by the planets Pluto and Mars. Both these celestial bodies have a strong relationship with Lilith from a mythological understanding, making Her presence in their ‘territory’ a noticeable one. Lilith’s interaction with the energy in this house holds tremendous passion, mystery, and transformation. Her influence can be highly plutonic because, as the transmitter of dark feminine energy, She is in the house that rules the gateways between different realms.
Everything She stands for is emphasized in this house of death, rebirth, sex, and transformation.
On top of those themes, the 8th house also rules money, taxes, banking, investments, inheritance, and business associations.
Anything mighty and influential happens in this house or through the aspects made to it.
What Lilith reveals here
Facing one’s demons and learning to transcend the suppressed and wounded internal parts that rule one’s unconscious patterns can bring tremendous power. The integration of Black Moon Lilith sets such a process in motion.
She helps people find their unconscious patterns of extremist or destructive behavior and forces them through challenging experiences to heal their wounded selves by restoring their internal balance where they may have felt powerless and helpless before.
The patriarchal world tends to condition people with a sense of shame, guilt, and rejection regarding their primal nature and wild desires for creative expression, which is the wild feminine side of Nature’s balance.
Lilith’s influence on the dealings with unconscious trauma and pain is similar to plutonic experiences, locked up in the unconscious, where patterns run in the background and cause problems.
When in the 8th house, Lilith’s wound can be best transcended when one tackles the condition that is related to keeping secrets and not feeling safe enough to be truthful and genuine about their vulnerability.
This placement brings somewhat similar experiences as having Lilith in Scorpio does. In both astrological cases, Lilith influences people by creating a driving curiosity for discovering the powerful unconscious and the world of taboos.
By nature, the 8th house and Lilith both deal with the dark realms of life that include the awareness of one’s pain, grief, trauma, seduction, and other often unconscious parts that significantly influence the experience of life and the behavior that results from hidden patterns.
The specific experiences related to Lilith in the mysterious 8th house are hard to depict. Yet, this placement is a probable indication of profound painful experiences related to death, near-death experiences, sexual suppression or abuse, psychological issues, and other experiences that very likely make a person familiar with the dark side of life.
It can make them serious individuals with a more consistent awareness of the nearness of death, the mystery of life, and their spiritual self.
Anything that ignores the raw truth of reality bores them, and superficiality may even repulse these people. They prefer to invest their energy in things that are truly meaningful to them and enrich their knowledge about spirituality.
This consistent practice of deeper awareness makes Lilith more focused and sensitive in the 8th house. Intuitively, those with this placement can be highly attuned to the energies around them and uncover the mysterious aspects of life much quicker than most people.
This ability to see things others may not creates a fascination for taboos and the occult. This makes them uncover layers of existence that many other people may never touch or face in their lifetimes.
This given interpretation of Lilith can manifest in painfully negative experiences but also divinely magical ones. It depends on how far these people can integrate Lilith and reclaim their ability to gain the power of choice and free will. The latter qualities allow people to create their reality as they desire from a loving place.
Those with Lilith in the 8th house must become aware of their manipulative powers and seductive streak. They can create a reality that is destructive, unfair, or exploitative of others. And even though most people do that unconsciously under the influence of Lilith, these individuals can be more aware of Lilith’s power and need to make a choice to use it in positive ways if they want to heal from the unconscious wounds that still reside.
On top of the spiritual aspect of the 8th house lies the sexual part of it. Lilith here can be highly sensual and transmit seductive qualities to these people. For them, the enjoyment of being seductive can feel like a source of power. Yet when this quality is not fully integrated and used correctly, it can cause many issues relating to intimacy and trust.
Another problem in their sexual experiences can be restrictions put upon them, which keep these people from experiencing it fully or rebelling against their internal suppressor by having many affairs or acting out in other harmful ways that disrupt their loyalty.
Sometimes the early perception of sex could have been violent and humiliating for these people, making their development of healthy sexuality harder in life. Many people with Lilith in the 8th house will experience a balanced and healthy relationship with their sexuality in the second half of their life.
Fetishes are not uncommon either, but when they are not navigated and contained, they can cause problems arising in relationships.
Speaking of relationships, Lilith in the 8th house, though unfaithful Herself at times, makes these people obsessed with commitment. They desire to merge their soul with a loved one and are mostly very caring and devoted toward their partner. This too, of course, can be positive or negative depending on the balance these people are able to achieve internally. The harmony can be restored once Lilith is integrated fully. Before that, these people can experience many of their pains and trauma in sexuality, relationships, and the taboos around them.
Lilith in the 8th house also indicates the probability of psychological issues that need to be dealt with. Often, these are caused by the problems related to the abuse of their sexual energy. Whether inflicted by other people or themselves. Painful memories can hold them back from enjoying their sensuality or seduce them to the other extreme; overcompensation and misuse of the indulgence they find in pleasure.
Having trust in themselves and others can restore many of their issues, yet due to the traumatic experiences they’ve had, many people with Lilith in the 8th house tend to lose trust in life. They can be suspicious of others’ intentions and become obsessed with unearthing secrets.
Lilith wants to understand things in depth before making a move Herself, making these people somewhat opportunistic and secretive about their private thoughts and feelings. They can become loners if they do not integrate Lilith, overcome their distrust, and learn to share more equally about themselves.
The desire to be in control is another reason for their lack of vulnerable openness. Lilith in the 8th house fears being helpless and unsafe because such vulnerability can cause Her anxiety. In people, this can cause certain blind spots in their identity. They may develop a false sense of self from their need to feel superior and avoid their own weak points. They may not see things objectively due to this because any bad judgment can trigger those hidden fears.
Yet facing feedback and allowing themselves to be genuinely seen can cause Lilith to undergo the necessary transformation by reevaluating Herself and the relationship with the world that apparently keeps Her afraid to trust it.
The lack of trust can make these people more intense and severe about themselves and their egos. Lilith suggests that their emotions run deep, though well kept in private secrecy. A false shield can protect their sensitivity, yet to find power in what makes Lilith in the 8th house so unique requires openness and trust when it comes to accepting the vulnerability of their sensitive nature.
These people can also get emotionally attached to a situation and see things unclearly, making them more reliant on their intuition but not always finding themselves in the best consequential situations because of that. They need to learn to trust their intelligence as well and combine it with their intuitive powers when it comes to making decisions and taking risks.
And lastly, the 8th house also rules finances and big business. It is essential that these people have those aspects well sorted out because Lilith’s influence can suggest betrayal in their finances and business deals or any other problems relating to loans, other people’s money, and significant investments.
The way to heal Lilith’s wound
The problematic point of Lilith’s position in a birth chart indicates the area in life where a person needs to face their shadows and trauma. The subconscious avoidance of integrating Her energy is not a solution because Lilith, as the dark Feminine energy, works through the unconscious plane and causes many issues to arise to the surface.
If She is positioned in a potent house, sign, or aspect in the chart, like the 8th house, Lilith’s influence becomes more evident and more challenging to ignore. Yet the potential self-empowerment She also transmits powerfully gifts those that have this difficult placement with incredible talent, intuition, and other strengths of being.
The best way to integrate Lilith would be first to recognize a resemblance with the traits mentioned in this article and connect them with the zodiac sign Lilith is in.
Any aspects between other planets from the Black Moon and other significant points in the chart are also important. Still, an excellent place to start in general is to consider how to develop their authentic traits in less intense and more genuine ways.
The experiences with hardship and pain can suggest a deep interest in psychology and the mechanics of one’s psyche. Diving deeper into the often uncharted territories of their mind can help these people uncover many of their blind spots, while also trusting the natural tendencies of their humanness. This can humble them and restore the trust to show their vulnerability without being afraid that they will lose any power.
The need for power above or over others is best to be tackled first because letting loved ones come closer can nurture and inspire these people very positively.
They may prefer their solitude, but the attention and healthy affection are also necessary to include if one undergoes such a transformational experience in life. And integrating Lilith in the 8th house is a potent one, without a doubt.
The dark side of life that these people often face, forces them to confront their shadow selves. Knowing that they can not run from this can result in their belief that self-awareness equals power, which enhances their spiritual growth.
Facing those demons can be a lot easier if there is a system of support around them, and for that they need to let people into their private vulnerabilities.