Those with their Lilith in Cancer will have to concur on issues related to their family in order to reclaim their sense of security, protection, and care.t
The balance for them must be found by facing the shadow aspects of jealousy, dependence, and childhood traumas that block their emotional maturity. At the same time, focusing on the potential strengths that can be found in Lilith’s lessons such as their caring heart, the creation of healthy family dynamics, and the genuinely loving and sovereign mother-archetype that lives within.
For Lilith to be empowered and her wounds to be healed, these people need to overcome and let go of their childhood traumas while focusing on the future they wish to create.
Lilith’s empowered Character
As the nurturer of the zodiac, the Cancer archetype concerns herself with home and family most. In this sign, Lilith can approach the world in a warming, accepting, and nourishing manner if she feels secure and empowered as a mother figure. To overcome her traumas, though, she needs to be given time and space to feel through her pains.
Cancer is an emotional sign ruled by the Moon which means that Lilith, as the shadow of this celestial body, shares a deeper connection with Her. People with Lilith in this sign might experience deeper feelings than most others will in their lives and they have to feel secure, safe and nourished to face their demons.
People with Lilith in Cancer have a well-developed sense of empathy and a strong imagination. They are good at accommodating others’ needs and often prefer to be in a homely environment of harmony and togetherness. These individuals usually dislike arguing or debating and know they can use their often very sharp intuition to determine when it is best to give other people space and avoid conflicts.
Their limitless care keeps them loyal at heart and always supportive of their loved ones. They are emotionally reliable people and can be trusted to keep others’ vulnerabilities safe.
To guard their own value and protect their emotional sensitivity, sometimes Cancerians can have a tough shell around them, making them stubborn and sometimes overly protective.
It is not unusual for Lilith to cause an attitude of rejection towards having children or being a family person in general when She is in Cancer. For women, this can even manifest in issues with fertility or pregnancy, while men with their Lilith in Cancer may repress their fatherly instincts.
Yet when Lilith is healed from her traumatic karmic bond related to roots, family, and home, she can bring strength and excitement to this area of life.
Lilith is a pain point to learn from, so when these people have reclaimed the power to trust their nurturing instincts and intuition, they can provide very well for themselves, their loved ones, and perhaps an even broader demographic.
Sexuality and relationship
The trust, welcoming feel, and intimacy they provide, combined with Lilith’s desire for fun, make these people true romantics.
Yet their sometimes overly protective tendencies can also make them the jealous type in relationships. These people may avoid the spiritual and thus vulnerable aspect of a romantic bond and focus on possessing their partner instead.
Lilith in Cancer can cause hardship in sexual relationships, no matter where these people have their Sun, Venus, and Moon sign. Being misused or forced into marriage and constituting family, for example.
As She reveals the hidden sexual impulses of a person, Black Moon Lilith might bring sexual daydreams and strong desires from the unconscious and uses this channel to force people with her presence in Cancer to look at their true needs and learn to embrace them without shame, guilt, or fear.
The lack of self-care can cause these people to reject their sexual impulses. They tend to avoid daring something new or being spontaneous to protect their sense of integrity and not ‘touch’ someone, but watch instead and surrender to their movement.
Pleasing or wanting to be submissive are other expressions that showcase the underlying insecurity and suppression of their needs.
To protect this hidden and often unconscious vulnerability, people with their Black Moon in Cancer tend to surround themselves with a suffocating amount of passion, affection, and care from others. In this extreme, they may develop a sense of loneliness and solitude, even if they’re in a beautiful, loving relationship.
Lesson in life
Lilith’s position in the natal chart shows the area in which a person will likely face many challenges, act on temptations, experience chaos, and struggle with existential pains of losing one’s self-empowerment and confidence in the soul.
She primarily manifests from the subconscious plane, which makes Her wounds harder to catch, leading to sometimes destructive patterns in life that remain unattended until Lilith’s anger forces these people to look at it after painful experiences. These can be avoided when a person becomes aware of their Lilith-placement and navigate this energy intentionally.
Once this point in the chart is integrated, and the person has learned the lessons found in their pains, the peace that blossoms empower Lilith’s creative nature and makes this area their source of power in life.
Her influence expresses itself in various ways and can either repress or overcompensate the traits related to the sign She is in. The key to healing is to find balance.
When placed in a water sign, Lilith acts subtle and indirect. Her ways are mysterious yet powerful.
Anchoring emotional stability is the most crucial lesson that Lilith teaches when in Cancer. She forces people to look at how they take care of themselves and how essential self-acceptance is.
She also tends to reject the feminine energy of a person in general, which denies their Soul’s creative, nurturing, and intuitive qualities.
To be less receptive, which is what the feminine energy represents, can cause people not to get the support they need because they struggle to provide this for themselves emotionally and have trouble accepting it from others.
As the sign of family and home, the Cancer archetype’s wounded experience is related to family karma, especially within the mother line. Cancer rules the 4th house in astrology, which is the area in life that is related to roots, ancestors, and home. Therefore, Lilith in Cancer symbolizes transgenerational trauma and provokes the need to release the suffering among women and the unhealthy patterns that are held on to through the generations within families.
In Cancer, the Black Moon may cause experiences related to safety, protection, and nourishment. Perhaps as children, people with Lilith in Cancer felt highly vulnerable and lacked nurturing love. Because of this, they may develop emotional wounds and find it hard to ask for help as adults.
The lack of security for a child, especially from a mother figure, can make their domestic life very stressful. Whether their mother was uncaring or overly protective and did not allow space for developing emotional independence, the effects of growing up in a dysfunctional family can result in a harmed sense of self-worth.
Another way their childhood could have been affected is if one family member had deep-rooted problems that toxified the home environment. While in other cases, it could be that parents did not fulfill their children’s needs when expressed, or the child asked for nurturing energy and did not receive it. This can manifest in them rejecting the idea of the crucial need for care in life or overcompensating it by developing overly protective behavior as adults.
With Lilith in Cancer, it is very important that individuals with this placement learn not to pass their family karma on to their children. They need to be aware of any power dynamics playing out and show plenty of self-reflection on themselves as a parent.
They must ask themselves if and how they can free themselves from the burden of childhood traumas and what kind of family they wish to create and provide for if the choice is entirely theirs. Which it is!
The insecurity and lack of self-care that needs to be transcended stems from the belief that being vulnerable is a burden on others. Such conditioning can make these individuals anxious, stuck in their shells, and not able to think for themselves as separate individuals. The process of growing up may be disturbed by a lack of emotional independence. Being overly tied to family and roots in sabotaging ways is often a potent cause of this.
In their younger years, they may have felt like a stranger to their own family and acted on the urge to move out early in life. Staying in touch as adults may be only for emergencies because the bond with family members is not easily repaired when Lilith has influenced the decision to take matters into their own hands. Anger and grudges can be held for a long time, but it’s good to know that these won’t serve anymore and are best to be released so that the offspring is not affected.
To strengthen self-confidence and the trust in their ability to provide, it is likely that people with Lilith in Cancer make sure to have a stable source of income to take care of themselves and their families. Working from home may also be an ideal setting for them.